The Family – A Centre of influence
In the western context, when you hit 18,
You are already considered an adult and should be treated as one,
You are expected to make your own money,
Find your own place to stay and be independent,
I am not against all that but the chinese are a different lot,
It’s only when you are married are you considered independent,
At most times, you still stay with your in-laws even though you are married,
With strings attached, do you still rely on your parents for moral support?
Do you move away from your comfort zone to be really independent?
Children nowadays are a pampered lot,
They have their parents to plan everything for them,
With so much to depend on, will they grow up to be able to fend for themselves?
From young, children should not be spared the cane but learn the basics of life.
It is thru this knowledge they will develop their minds and learn to be independent.
I have been to China and noticed that their families are a very different lot,
In times of need, they will band together to resolve problems together,
In times of celebration, they will also band together to celebrate.
You can count on your friends/relations to loan that needed money in times of need,
But they will expect you to return them the favor sometime in future.
What is happening to the rest of the world?
The only way to raise funds is to talk to a banker.
“Unity in strength”
Take a chopstick and you can easily bend it.
But take a bunch of chopsticks and try to do the same?
This world is full of instant gratification,
You have instant marriages,
And instant divorces,
When things go wrong you will bail out straightaway,
But have you spare a thought for your children?
I never say mine was perfect in the first place,
But when I have children,
There is no such word as ‘divorce’,
No matter how difficult is the going,
Marriage is a sanctury,
With children, it is in eternity.
I never believe in breaking one’s family,
“A Happy family is a “blessed” family.