Choosing Love

Choosing Love

How can someone ever trust in the existence of an unconditional divine love when most, if not all, of what he or she has experienced is the opposite of love – fear, hatred, violence, and abuse?
They are not condemned to be victims! There remains within them hidden as it may seem, the possibility to chose love. Many people who have suffered the most horrendous rejections and been subject to the most cruel torture have been able to chose love. By chosing love they become witnesses not only to human resiliency but also to the divine love that transcend all human loves. Those who choose, even on a small scale, to love in the midst of hatred and fear are the people who offer true hope to our world.

Small Steps of Love

How can we choose love when we have experienced so little of it? We chose love by taking small steps of love every time there is an opportunity. A smile, a handshake, a word of encouragement, a phone call, a card, an embrace, a kind greeting, a gesture of support, a moment of attention, a helping hand, a present, a financial contribution, a visit – all these are little steps towards love.
Each step is like a candle burning in the night. It does not take the darkness away, but it guides us through the darkness. When we look back after many small steps of love, we will discover that we have made a long and beautiful journey.

The Greatest Love

“Faith, Hope, Love, these three; but the greatest of these is Love.” I Corinthians 13:13

“Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gifts he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.”
I Peter 4 :9-10

“Do not work for food that spoils, but for food that endures to eternal life, which the Son of Man will give you.” John 6 :27

The Source of all Love

“In order not to be destroyed by the wounds inflicted by that imperfect human love, we must trust that the source of all love is God’s unlimited, unconditional, perfect love, and that this love is not far away from us but is the gift of God’s Spirit dwelling within us.”

Henri J M Nouwen was a Dutch Catholic priest who shared his life with people with mental disabilities as pastor of the I’ Arche Daybreak Community, Toronto, Canada. He was the author of more than thirty books on spiritual life, including The Return of the Prodigal Son, The Wounded Healer and The Genesee Diary (all DLT). He died in September 1996.

There is no shortcut to Success

There is no shortcut to Success

Thruout my lifetime,
I have searching for that shortcut,
You name it, I have tried it but without success,
Even with the most powerful software to visualise,
There isn’t a shortcut to success.
Unless you are born with a silver spoon,
But even you have money today doesn’t mean you have it tomorrow,
Unless you are prudent and know how to manage it,
For the rest of us, it’s carrying our cross,
And make our living as anyone else.
The secret to success is hard work,
Day by day you build your wealth,
Solving problems by problems,
Remember you need to cross that bridge,
Before you reach the next stage,
And if you fail it will set you back,
If you are not able to climb back up,
You are already a failure,
Cause Life is a series of bridges you must cross,
And never look back,
That is the challenge of success,
With logical planning and hard work,
And a little bit of luck,
The next bridge you cross may bring you great tidings,
Or your next windfall.

No man is an island

No man is an island

Mankind has always been social creatures,
And the need to interact and love exists since time,
Friends, relations and aquantances,
Form an intergrated circle we can do without,
We depend on their influence and support,
To solve problems in life,
But the sad fact is they have become self centred,
Only concerned about themselves,
To be better than their neighbours,
In this silly rat race,
What is really enough?
The sacrifices for your morals,
Compromised and defeated,
Mankind will always struggle,
With issues of the world,
They seek enlightenment in all the wrong places,
And put up a false front,
Take the log out from your eye,
Before you complain about your brother’s,
Cause what you do will come round,
Back to haunt you,
Nothing hidden under your bed,
Will one day be revealed,
So why don’t you do good,
And purge your conscience,
So that your night’s sleep,
Will be so very sweet,
And if we do not do what others may follow,
The world will be definitely a better place to live in.

The Family – A Centre of influence

The Family – A Centre of influence

In the western context, when you hit 18,
You are already considered an adult and should be treated as one,
You are expected to make your own money,
Find your own place to stay and be independent,
I am not against all that but the chinese are a different lot,
It’s only when you are married are you considered independent,
At most times, you still stay with your in-laws even though you are married,
With strings attached, do you still rely on your parents for moral support?
Do you move away from your comfort zone to be really independent?
Children nowadays are a pampered lot,
They have their parents to plan everything for them,
With so much to depend on, will they grow up to be able to fend for themselves?
From young, children should not be spared the cane but learn the basics of life.
It is thru this knowledge they will develop their minds and learn to be independent.

I have been to China and noticed that their families are a very different lot,
In times of need, they will band together to resolve problems together,
In times of celebration, they will also band together to celebrate.
You can count on your friends/relations to loan that needed money in times of need,
But they will expect you to return them the favor sometime in future.
What is happening to the rest of the world?
The only way to raise funds is to talk to a banker.
“Unity in strength”
Take a chopstick and you can easily bend it.
But take a bunch of chopsticks and try to do the same?

This world is full of instant gratification,
You have instant marriages,
And instant divorces,
When things go wrong you will bail out straightaway,
But have you spare a thought for your children?
I never say mine was perfect in the first place,
But when I have children,
There is no such word as ‘divorce’,
No matter how difficult is the going,
Marriage is a sanctury,
With children, it is in eternity.
I never believe in breaking one’s family,
“A Happy family is a “blessed” family.

What is Love?

What is Love?

It is love at first sight,
Infatuation – when your hearts beat faster,
And that rush of chemistry thru your brains,
Sent you in eternal blisshood,
A sense of longing,
The feeling of missing someone you love,
During courtship, its the mighty might,
To bring down the stars for your love one.
After marriage, and after things are settled in,
Comes the commitment, sacrifices and reality,
When love doesn’t comes with the intensity,
The chemistry and the longing,
You suddenly wakeup to the wrong side of bed,
When the dust settles, do you still cling on to your marriage or move on?
Man and woman are two different creatures,
For man, it’s the physical love,
And woman, the emotional love,
Two different views,
Two different requirements,
Do you see eye to eye?
Ask any couple who has spent a lifetime together,
What are their secrets,
They will tell you,
It’s sacrifice, commitment, faithfulness, love and companionship.
The willingness to stay together no matter what comes may,
A Lifetime of sacrifices,
That is not what love is today.

Wife = Whore? A Whole Lot of Rubbish

Posted by RichAsianKid

My take? Girlfriends (or wives) are like cars. People want new chic models (pun intended) and not old clunkers. Test drives are fun. Rentals get you variety. Those who fall in love with one and end up purchasing one usually dump it when it is 3-4 years old*(1).

Rich men have multiple cars in their showcase garages. Middle class guys go from model to model serially. Poor dudes just resort to public transport*(2).

*(1) peak divorce rate
*(2) whores are public property

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http://www.forbes.com/entrepreneurs/2006/02/11/economics-prostitution…

The Economics Of Prostitution
Michael Noer, 02.14.06, 12:00 PM ET

Wife or whore?

The choice is that simple. At least according to economists Lena Edlund and Evelyn Korn, it is.

The two well-respected economists created a minor stir in academic circles a few years back when they published “A Theory of Prostitution” in the Journal of Political Economy. The paper was remarkable not only for being accepted by a major journal but also because it considered wives and whores as economic “goods” that can be substituted for each other. Men buy, women sell.

Economists have been equating money and marriage ever since Nobel Prize-winning economist Gary Becker published his seminal paper “A Theory of Marriage” in two parts in 1973 and 1974–also, not coincidentally, in the Journal of Political Economy.

Becker used market analysis to tackle the questions of whom, when and why we marry. His conclusions? Mate selection is a market, and marriages occur only if they are profitable for both parties involved.

Becker allowed nonmonetary elements, like romantic love and companionship, to be entered into courtship’s profit and loss statement. And children, in particular, were important. “Sexual gratification, cleaning, feeding and other services can be purchased, but not children: Both the man and the woman are required to produce
their own children and perhaps to raise them,” he wrote.

But back to whores: Edlund and Korn admit that spouses and streetwalkers aren’t exactly alike. Wives, in truth, are superior to whores in the economist’s sense of being a good whose consumption increases as income rises–like fine wine. This may explain why prostitution is less common in wealthier countries. But the implication
remains that wives and whores are–if not exactly like Coke and Pepsi–something akin to champagne and beer. The same sort of thing.

As with Becker, a key differentiator in Edlund and Korn’s model is reproductive sex. Wives can offer it, whores can not.

To be fair, Edlund and Korn were merely building an admittedly grossly simplified model of human behavior in an attempt to answer a nagging question: Why do hookers make so much money? Prostitution is, seemingly, a low-skill but high-pay profession with few upfront costs, micro-miniskirts and stiletto heels aside.

Yet according to data assembled from a wide variety of times and places, ranging from mid-15th-century France to Malaysia of the late 1990s, prostitutes make more money–in some cases, a lot more money–than do working girls who, well, work for a living. This held true even for places where prostitution is legal and relatively safe. In short, streetwalkers aren’t necessarily being paid more for their increased risk of going to jail or the hospital.

Notwithstanding Jerry Hall’s quip when she was married to Mick Jagger, about being “a maid in the living room and a whore in the bedroom,” one normally cannot be both a wife and a whore. “Combine this with the fact that marriage can be an important source of income for women, and it follows that prostitution must pay better than other jobs to compensate for the opportunity cost of forgone-marriage market earnings,” Edlund and Korn conclude.

Ouch.

Another zinger: “This begs the question of why married men go to prostitutes (rather than buying from their wives, who presumably will be low-cost providers, considering that they can sell nonreproductive sex without compromising their marriage).” Guys, nothing says “Happy Valentine’s Day” more than “low-cost provider.”

Of course, it’s easy to pour cold water on some of the assumptions made in Edlund and Korn’s mathematical model. But these so-called “stylized facts” are supposed to predict human behavior; they don’t necessarily pretend to mirror it.

In particular, the assumption that there is no “third way” between wife and whore is problematic, if not outright offensive: “The third alternative, working in a regular job but not marrying, can be ruled out, since we assume that the only downside of marriage for a woman is the forgone opportunity for prostitution.”

Be sure to let all your married friends know what they’re missing.

Also, the emphasis on the utility of children is puzzling. In most Western democracies, fertility rates have plummeted as wealth has increased. Empirically, men not only buy fewer whores as they get richer, but they have fewer children.

Still, the economic analysis of marriage explains one age-old phenomenon: gold digging.

“In particular, does our analysis justify the popular belief that more beautiful, charming and talented women tend to marry wealthier and more successful men?” wrote Becker. His answer: “A positive sorting of nonmarket traits with nonhuman wealth always, and with earnings power, usually, maximizes commodity output over all marriages.”

In other words, yes, supermodels do prefer aging billionaires. And Gary Becker proved it mathematically decades before The Donald married Melania.

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Prostitutes are generally young, uneducated and female. It is a low-skill job that has few upfront costs. But prostitutes make more money–in some cases much more–than working girls who, well, work for a living. This holds true even in places where prostitution is legal and relatively safe, so it can’t just be that hookers are being paid more because they run an increased risk of going to jail or the
hospital.

So why do hookers make so much money?

In 2002, a pair of economists concluded that whores make so much more than their working-class peers because they forego the economic benefits of getting married. But how much more do they make? This slide show illustrates the difference in seven different times and places through history.

Source: “A Theory of Prostitution,” Journal of Political Economy, 2002.
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Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World
“Free sex is promoted in order to destroy the heterosexual family. The bankers who financed Communism want the state to replace the father as head of the family.
If they have their way, the family of the future will have no husband or father. This is straight out of Aldous Huxley’s Brave New World where babies are born in test tubes.
Sexual intercourse represents the essence of her commitment to her husband and her offspring. Women who have had many partners find it more difficult to bond to one man, and consequently he has difficulty bonding with her.
Sexual liberation sanctions and encourages this callous and primitive behavior and invites the woman to collude in her own exploitation and degradation.
Men who do not become husbands and fathers and continue to see women as sex objects suffer from arrested development.”